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6 Tips for parents sharing child custody

Divorced parents often find themselves navigating complicated terrain when sharing child custody. The process can be fraught with difficulty and confusion, whether you have a shared arrangement or each parent has sole custody at certain times. 

To help ease some of that stress, we share 6 tips for divorced parents sharing child custody. These simple strategies help make this transition more manageable as you work to ensure your children’s best interests remain at the forefront of all decision-making processes.


Communicate effectively

Good communication is key to making shared custody work. Parents should establish regular communication with each other, whether it’s through phone calls, emails, or text messages. It’s essential to keep each other informed about the child’s schedule, medical appointments, and other important events. Parents should also make an effort to talk about any concerns or issues they have related to their child’s well-being.

Establish the right parenting plan

A parenting plan is a written document that outlines the details of child custody and visitation. It should include information such as the child’s schedule, transportation arrangements, and how the parents will make decisions related to the child. A clear and detailed parenting plan can help prevent confusion and misunderstandings between parents.

Be flexible

Shared custody can be unpredictable, and parents must be flexible and willing to make adjustments. This might mean being open to a last-minute change in the child’s schedule or agreeing to an extra visit if one parent is going out of town for work. Flexibility can help prevent conflicts and ensure that the child’s needs are always the top priority.

Keep your child’s best interests in mind

When making decisions related to child custody, parents should always keep the child’s best interests in mind. This might mean putting the child’s emotional needs ahead of their desire to spend more time with them or allowing the child to maintain a strong relationship with their other parent. By prioritizing the child’s well-being, parents can help ensure that the child feels loved and supported by both.

Maintain consistency

Children thrive on routine and consistency, and parents must maintain as much consistency as possible in the child’s schedule and environment. This might mean keeping the same routines for meals, bedtimes, and other activities and maintaining a similar environment in both households. Consistency can help the child feel more secure and make the household transition easier.

Seek professional help

Shared custody can be a complex and emotional experience, and parents may need professional help to navigate the process. This might mean consulting a child custody lawyer, a family therapist, or a mediator. By seeking professional help, parents can get the guidance and support they need to make shared custody work for them and their children.



Parents need to remember that, despite the challenges, shared custody allows them to co-parent their children and provide them with the love and support they need. If you are a divorced or divorcing parent, it is important to remember that you are not alone. Millions of parents go through child custody battles every year. 

With the help of an experienced family law attorney, you can create a parenting plan that is in the best interest of your children. The Law Office Of Shamika T. Askew has helped countless families navigate the child custody process, and we can help you too. Contact our team today for a free consultation.

Attorney Shamika T. Askew

I'm the founder and Managing Attorney of The Law Office of Shamika T. Askew. I'm licensed to practice law in all Florida State Courts and the United States District Court for the Middle District of Florida. I'm also licensed to practice law in Lansing, MI. I have years of experience helping people with family law, probate and personal injury